The Emotional Toll of Being an Unpaid Carer for a Heart Failure Patient and the Importance of Prioritising Self-Care.

 

 

 

Taking care of a person with heart failure can be an exhausting and emotionally draining task, which often leaves unpaid carers feeling overwhelmed and unsupported. Unfortunately, unpaid carers in the UK face many challenges and obstacles on a daily basis, which can lead to feelings of loneliness, isolation, and compromised health.

 

According to the Carers Trust, there are approximately 7 million unpaid carers in the UK, with 6,000 people becoming carers each day. Furthermore, it is estimated that 1 in 7 unpaid carers in the UK is caring for a person with heart failure.

 

The emotional toll of being an unpaid carer for a person with heart failure cannot be underestimated. Unpaid carers may experience feelings of isolation, anxiety, stress, and depression, which can have a significant impact on their physical and mental health. In fact, a study by Carers UK found that 72% of unpaid carers in the UK suffer from poor mental health, while 61% reported feeling lonely or socially isolated.

 

Self-care is crucial for unpaid carers, and it is important to prioritise one's own well-being to avoid burnout and health issues. Taking breaks, seeking support, and making time for hobbies and interests are just a few ways to practice self-care.

 

Unpaid carers must be encouraged to prioritise their own health and well-being, as well as their relationship with the person they are caring for. This can improve the quality of care and ensure that both the unpaid carer and the person receiving care are receiving the support they need.

 

Thanks for taking the time to read.

 

Bondy

A - Z of the LGBTQ+ vocabulary pt. 2

 A-Z of the LGBTQ+ vocabulary pt. 2

Hi there everyone.  I was meant to do the second part of this post a while ago but as you know personal life does get in the way unfortunately.  I had to put my caring responsibilities and my health to the fore-front recently.  So enough about me, but here we go with part 2 of this post.

 

H

Heteronormative/Heteronormativity

These words are used to describe the notion that that heterosexuality is the preferred or normal mode of sexual orientation. It assumes the gender binary (i.e., that there are only two distinct, opposite genders) and that sexual and marital relations are most fitting between people of opposite sex.

 

Heterosexual or Straight

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The term Heterosexual/Straight describes a man or woman whose sexual orientation or romantic attraction towards the opposite gender (Male and Female coupling).

 

Homosexual 

The word homosexual can be seen as a more medical term to describe those individuals in society who are romantically or sexually attracted towards someone of the same gender. Gay is now more widely used.

Homophobia

Homophobia is a term that encompasses a range of negative attitudes, thoughts, fear and action towards Gay, Lesbian or Bisexuxal people, which can stem from religious beliefs.  Homophobic bullying can also be aimed at those individuals who are also percieved to identify as Lesbian, Gay or Bisexual due to being different to others around them.

 

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Intersex

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The term Intersex is used to refer those individuals in society who may have both biological charactheristics of both sexes. The term is also used to refer to those who biological charactheristics that do not fit the norm of societial ideas of what is a male or female individual.  

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Lesbian 

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The term Lesbian is used to refer to a woman who has a romatic or sexual attraction towards other women.  Some individuals who identify as non-binary can also identify as Lesbian.

 

Lesbophobia

Lesbophobia is the term used to describe the negative attitudes, thoughts, fear and action towards those percvieved to identify as a Lesbian.  

 

LGBTQ+ 

LGBTQ+ is the umbrella acronym used for Lesbian, Gay, Bi-sexual, Transgender, Questionning, Queer and Ace.

LGBTQIA+

LGBTQIA+ is used as an inclusive term that encompasses people of all genders and sexualities  such as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning, queer, intersex, asexual, pansexual, and allies.  Whilst each letter in the LGBTQIA+ acronym identifies a specific group of people, the acronym embodies the entire spectrum of gender fluidity and sexual identities.

 

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Non-Binary

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Non-Binary is an umbrella term that emcompasses people whose gender identity does not sit with the societal norm of male or female.  Those who identify as non-binary cna include those individuals who recognise with some aspects of binary identities, whilst many disregard the binary identities completly.  It is also known that non-binary identities can be varied.

 

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Orientation

The word orientation is a used to describe a person's attraction towards other people.  This could be a romantic attraction or a sexual attraction and is based on a person's identity based on their attraction or lack of.

 

Outed

Outed is a word used to described when an individual's gender identity or sexual orientation is told to others without that person's consent.  

 

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Pan/Pansexual

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Pan or Pansexual is the term used to refer to someone whose seuxal or romantic attraction to other individuals is not just based on a person's gender or sex.  

 

Passing

Passing is the word used to describe someone at a glance who is to be believed a cisgender man or woman.  For definition of Cisgender please see part 1 of this series. 

Platonic Partnerships

Those individual's who is on the aro spectrum or identify as Ace could have platonic relationships that emcompasses a high level of commitment that can include shared life decisions such as co-parenting children or living arrangements.  These partnerships could also include more than 2 people.Like allosexual and alloromantic people, ace and aro spectrum people may be monogamous or polyamorous. 

 

Pronoun

A pronoun is the term used to describe a person's gender identity through conversation.  These pronouns could include he, him, she or her.  There are some people who prefer their pronouns to be more gender netural and these include ze and zir, they and their.

 

Q

Queer

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The term Queer is used by those individuals who want to reject the specific labels in relation to sexual orientation or romantic attraction.  Queer can also be used as a slur by those who may have discrimatory notions towards those they percieve to be LGBTQ+.  The word Queer was reclaimed in the 1980's by the queer community, but their are still those who do identify as LGBTQ+ find the word to be triggering for them.

 

Questioning

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Questioning is the term used for those who are in the process of exploring their own gender identity or sexual/romantic orientation.

So this ends Part 2 of my LGBTQ+ vocab post.  Part 3 will becoming shortly.  If you think I have missed anything out so far, then please get in touch as even though I identify as a gay man, I recently realised that I also identify as a Demisexual person too.  So doing these posts have been an exploration for my own identity.

Hope you enjoy.

Bondy out!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A-Z of the LGBTQ+ vocabulary pt. 1

A-Z of the LGBTQ+ vocabulary pt.1

 

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Well, I did explain in the Why am I doing this blog post that I would be writing. As you may have worked out that I am a gay man. As a gay man who came out in 2000 or 1998 to some, I experienced a lot of bullying, prejudice, and discrimination. Most of the time I knew that this was out of fear, hatred and a lack of understanding. The LGBT community was making strides in protesting for equal rights and Section 28 was finally repealed in 2003. Fast forward to 2022, the LGBTQ+ community has grown, and various identities and language is used to identify members in the community. So, in my little old blogger sphere, I thought do an A-Z of the LGBTQ+ vocabuloary.

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Abro (sexual and romantic)

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A word used to describe people who have a fluid sexual and/or romantic orientation which changes over time, or the course of their life. Over time, they may describe themselves differently.

 

Ace

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A term used to describe varying or occasional experiences of sexual attraction. As well as asexuals, demisexuals, and grey-sexuals, this group includes people who identify as asexual. The term asexual might also be used to describe a person's sexual attraction if they are experiencing romantic attraction or occasional sexual attraction.

 

Ace and aro/ace and aro spectrum

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A term used to represent a broad variety of individuals who occasionally or at varied levels experience romantic or sexual desire. These terms serve as a catch-all for people who identify in a variety of ways, such as asexual, ace, aromantic, aro, demi, grey, or abro. Along with ace and aro, people may also use terminology like gay, bi, lesbian, straight, and queer to describe the direction of romantic or sexual attraction if and when they experience it. 

 

 Allo (sexual and romantic)

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Despite not identifying as ace or aro, allo persons are sexually and romantically attracted to others.  As straight is to LGB+ spectrum identities, allo is to ace and aro spectrum identities.  Using language that equalises experience is crucial because otherwise, the opposite of ace and aro becomes "normal," which is stigmatising.

 

Aro

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An all-encompassing term used to refer to the absence, fluctuating, or sporadic feelings of romantic attraction.  This includes those who identify as aromantic, demiromantic, and grey-romantic.  People who identify as asexual yet occasionally feel sexual desire or occasional romantic interest may also use labels like homosexual, bi, lesbian, straight, and queer to express the nature of their attraction.

 

Aromantic

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A person who is not attracted romantically. While some aromantics are attracted to others, others are not. When describing the direction of their attraction, aromantic people who occasionally feel sexual desire or romantic attraction may also use labels like homosexual, bi, lesbian, straight, and queer in addition to the term "asexual."

 

Asexual

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A person who is not attracted to others sexually.  While some asexuals feel romantic desire, others do not.  When describing the direction of their romantic attraction, asexual people who feel it may also use terminology like homosexual, bisexual, lesbian, straight, and queer in addition to the word "asexual."

 

Ally

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A supporter of the LGBT community who is (usually) straight and/or cis.

 

 

B

Bi

 

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Bi is an overall term applied to depict a sexual orientation or/and romantic encounters to more than one gender.

Bi people could define themselves using more than one term including and not constrained to queer, pan, bisexual and other non-monoromantic and non-monosexual individualities.

 

Biphobia

Is the animosity or loathing of a person who identifies as bi.  These negative outlooks, views or beliefs are based on prejudice towards bi people.  This could also be in the form of Biphobic bullying and those who are believed to be bi or are bi are targeted.

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Butch

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Butch is a phrase used in LBT community to describe someone who expresses themselves in a masculine way.

There are other characteristics within the scope of butch, such as ‘soft butch’ and ‘stone butch’. You shouldn’t use these terms about someone unless you know they identify with them.

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Cisgender or Cis

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Someone whose gender identity is the same as the sex they were assigned at birth (Male or Female). Non-trans is also used by some people.

 

​Coming out

At the point when an individual first tells somebody/others about their sexual orientation and/or gender identity.

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D

Deadnaming

Calling somebody by their original name after they have changed their name. This term is often associated with trans individual who have changed their name as part of their transition.

 

Demi (sexual and romantic)

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An umbrella term used to portray individuals who may only feel sexually or romantically attracted with someone they have framed a close emotional bond with.  People may also use terms such as gay, bi, lesbian, straight and queer in conjunction with demi to explain the direction of their romantic or sexual attraction as they experience it.

 

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Femme

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Femme is a term used in LGBT community to describe someone who expresses themselves in a feminine manner.

There are other identities within the scope of femme, such as ‘low femme’, ‘high femme’, and ‘hard femme’. You shouldn’t use these terms about someone unless you know they identify with them.

 

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Gay

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Refers to a man who has a romantic and/or sexual orientation towards men. The term is widely used for lesbian and gay sexuality - some women identify themselves as gay rather than lesbian. Some non-binary people may well also identify with this term.

 

​Gender

Often denominated of masculinity and femininity, gender is very much culturally determined and assumed to be from the sex assigned at birth.

 

​Gender Dysphoria

Used to explain when a person experiences discomfort, confusion, or distress because there is a disparity between their sex assigned at birth and their gender identity.

​Gender Expression

How a person chooses to express their gender, within the context of societal norms around gender. A person who does not conform to these norms of gender may, however, identify as trans.

 

​Gender identity

A person’s intrinsic sense of their own gender, whether male, female, or something else (see non-binary), which may or may not be consistent to the sex designated at birth.

 

​Gender Reassignment

A way of describing a person’s transition. To go through gender reassignment usually means to go through some sort of medical intervention, but it can also mean changing pronouns, names, dressing differently, and living in their self-identified gender.

Gender reassignment is a characteristic that is protected by the Equality Act (2010).  It is a term of much debate and is one that Stonewall's Trans Advisory Group feels should be reviewed.​

 

Gender Recognition Certificate (GRC)

This legally allows trans people to be recognised by their affirmed gender and the person to be issued with a new birth certificate. Not all trans people will apply for a GRC and you currently must be over 18 to apply.

You do not need a GRC to change your gender markers at work or to legally change your gender on other documents such as your passport.

 

​Gillick Competence

A term used in medical law to decide whether a child (under 16 years of age) can consent to their own medical treatment, without the need for parental permission or knowledge.

 

Grey (sexual and romantic)

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A.K.A. grey-A, this is an umbrella term which describes people who feel attraction occasionally, rarely, or only under certain conditions. Terms such as gay, bi, lesbian, straight and queer in conjunction with grey to explain a person’s sexual or romantic attraction.

The idea of this glossary came from Stonewall  😀