My email to Blaenau Gwent Social Services

I know I have not done a post in a while,  but I have been going through hell trying to get the right support due to how my health has deteriorated.  So I thought I share my email with you all which I have wrote too my local social service manager raising my concern.  So I also included the local MP, AM, town council and Councillor for my area into this as well.  The MP and AM were aware of the situation.

I am so angry, upset, and feeling totally let down.  I know the struggles the social care and health care sector is facing as I have worked in it myself for most of my career. But how can I be left like this to struggle.

Hi there.

I have been in contact with Social Services recently explaining about a deterioration in my mobility and difficulties with walking distances on my own with crutchesdue to have multiple multiple spinal issues. I also explained how I am having difficulties with lifting my legs onto my knee to wash them.

I have also raised concerns about how socially isolated I have become due to be an unpaid carer for my mum and due to my limited mobility. I have ended up on the floor in my bungalow and outside many times in the last 2 months due to my leg giving way.

My GP said I am meant to do be doing very little and the state of my spine is of an 80 year old man. It not just pain that is causing my problems. I'm not meant to clean or do any lifting.

I have recently found out that when I was 9 years old I got diagnosed with oesteoporosis at the age of 9 and it was meant to be managed and treated by the gp at the time and in nearly 30 years it hasn't. It going to take a least a tear to get a bone density scan to confirm this diagnosis. 

In the space of 10 months I have gone from walking upright to now unable to barely manage distances as my left left keeps giving way from under me with crutches on my own so I would have to wait for my partner to visit fron Cardiff before I can go out. I also can't handle public transport.

I am also an unpaid carer for my mum and yes we had aids and adaptions assessments for the bungalow and she got aids to help her with her personal etc.

I was advised by my GP and also my mum OT Anne-marie to contact the duty desk to have an OT assessment done due to the deterioration in my needs.

I emailed in and explained the situation to the duty desk and they said that there was nothing that could be done and a referral to an OT would not be arranged. I was also told there was no funding for aids to help me with the difficulties I am now facing with my own personal carer.

Physio will not work with me until I been seen by a spinal specialist which is over a 3 year wait for the initial appointment and my gp done all they can for me.

My mum OT ended up ordering me a self-propelling wheelchair herself which wont really be suitable if i wanted to go out on my own as propelling it myself could make my spinal conditions worse, so still have to rely on someone to take me out and also given me some aids they had to help me with washing my lower half and with dressing.

I have been saying for the last year how socially isolated I become and have only 1 friend in the Borough who I can't even visit as they live in Cwn.

I was asked if I do still my driving lesson which are being funded by motability and waiting to be reassessed to see of the car is still suitable as my mum now requires an electric wheelchair. So the car I have on order will be unsuitable and I'm waiting to be reassessed by them to have a grant for a suitable car and hoist which will delay me getting a car through them as it can take over a year to get an adapted car.

The only advice I had was to give up driving lessons if I'm in too much pain and do online shopping. I also finding travelling on the local bus services too much due to the way the roads can be narrow so you moving around a lot in your seat.

So can I please raise my case as a concern as I feel that I have been neglected by social services and have not been listened too since ever since I made first contact with Social Service. I have also supposedly have had full carers assessments which I don't believe were of a high standard.

Due to not just issue going on but others as well I am continuously fighting the system to get heard. Fighting the DWP for 2 years to get the correct benefits for both me and my mum, fighting social services for 2 years to get the right support for me and my mum.   

Also due to being sexually abused as a child and recently reporting it to the police, and I was under trauma counselling with New Pathways, but due to all the ongoing issues I had to stop that because I had to many other negative stressor to deal with. I am awaiting an assessment with the Community Mental Health Team, but waiting lists are long too. I am on the verge of a mental break down and the urges to self harm and end it are getting worse. I won't do it due my responsibilities and my partner, but I am in a very vulnerable. I have a form of disassociation disorder due to trauma and mask how difficult things are.

Having no friends around me or being able to get out of the bungalow independently is really taking it toll on me. I do not know who to turn too and when I ask for help and explain my situation I just keep walking into closed doors.

How can I be left to live like this. It is also impacting on my mum and making her health worse as she is so worried and stressed about me too and can see how difficult things have become for me.

Can I also ask;

1) Why am I being left to become so socially isolated.

2) Why was I refused a referral to the Community Resource Team to be reassessed.

3) If there was no funding for aids to help me, why did my mum OT requested these aids to help me.

4) Why has the community connectors services never been suggested to me and my mum and why have they not emailed me back to my initial email I sent over a month ago.

5) What support will I recieve to help care for my mum when she has her pacemaker operation next month. As if she requires help with personal care, I will not be able to do this.

6) Why does it seem that me learning to drive is being held against me?. When it seems to be the only option to get any form of independence.

I am sorry for having to write this email and I know the struggles the NHS and Social care have because I have previously worked in the sector for my whole career. But how can I be left neglected like this and not be listened too.

Thanks

John Bond

Does any of my readers have any advice.

Celebrating Carers Week: Recogniisng and Supporting the Unsung Heroes in the UK

As I am an Unpaid Carer for my mum, I could not ignore that this week is Carers Week in the UK.  Being an unpaid carer for the last 2 years with little family or profressional support has taken a toll on me.  So I thought I would highlight what Carers Week is all about.

 

In the United Kingdom, Carers Week is a vital annual event that shines a spotlight on the selfless individuals who provide care and support to their loved ones. These individuals, known as carers, play a pivotal role in our society by looking after family members, friends, or neighbors who may have a disability, illness, or are elderly. Carers Week serves as a platform to raise awareness about the challenges they face, celebrate their remarkable contributions, and promote the importance of supporting carers nationwide. In this blog post, we'll delve into the significance of Carers Week in the UK and highlight the initiatives aimed at recognizing and assisting carers.

1. Understanding the Role of Carers: Carers are individuals who provide unpaid care and support to someone who requires assistance due to illness, disability, mental health issues, or old age. They play a crucial role in maintaining the well-being and quality of life of their loved ones. Carers often juggle multiple responsibilities, including personal care, emotional support, household chores, and managing healthcare needs. Their dedication and sacrifice are instrumental in allowing individuals with care needs to remain in their homes and communities.

2. The Significance of Carers Week: Carers Week, traditionally held in June, is an annual campaign that brings attention to the vital contributions of carers across the UK. The campaign aims to raise awareness about carers' challenges and needs, promote understanding and support, and ensure carers receive the recognition they deserve. The week-long event is an opportunity for organisations, charities, and communities to come together and celebrate the extraordinary efforts of carers while highlighting the importance of their well-being.

3. Key Objectives of Carers Week:

• Raising Awareness: Carers Week strives to increase public awareness about the diverse range of caring roles and the challenges carers face in their daily lives.
• Recognition: The campaign aims to recognise and celebrate the remarkable contributions made by carers, ensuring they feel valued and appreciated.
• Support: Carers Week emphasises the importance of providing carers with adequate support, both practical and emotional, to help them in their caregiving journey.
• Influence Policy: The campaign advocates for changes in policies and practices that can positively impact carers' lives, ensuring they receive the necessary support from the government, healthcare systems, and communities.

4. Activities and Events during Carers Week: Carers Week hosts a variety of activities and events throughout the country to engage carers, their families, and the wider community. These events include information sessions, workshops, support groups, social gatherings, art exhibitions, and fundraising initiatives. Local authorities, charities, and healthcare organisations actively participate in organising events to promote awareness, provide valuable resources, and deliver services tailored to carers' needs.

5. The Importance of Supporting Carers: Caring for a loved one can be physically and emotionally demanding, often leading to stress, exhaustion, and social isolation for carers. It is crucial to prioritise their well-being and provide them with the necessary support to maintain their own health and happiness. Recognising and supporting carers not only benefits the individuals they care for but also contributes to building a compassionate and inclusive society.

6. Resources and Support Available: Several organisations provide information, resources, and support for carers in the UK. These include:

• Carers UK: A national charity providing practical advice, information, and support for carers.
  
• Carers Trust: Offers a wide range of services, support groups, and access to local carer centers.
• Local Authorities: Contact your local council to find out about support available in your area.
• Health and Social Care Services: Healthcare professionals can provide guidance and information on available support services.

Supporting LGBTQ+ Individuals with Dementia: Celebrating Diversity and Ensuring Inclusivity

Dementia is a neurological condition that affects millions of people worldwide, including those within the LGBTQ+ community. While the challenges of dementia are well-documented, it is essential to understand and address the unique needs and experiences of LGBTQ+ individuals living with this condition. In this blog, we will explore the importance of supporting LGBTQ+ people with dementia, focusing specifically on the context of the United Kingdom.

1. Acknowledging Diversity: One of the key reasons for supporting LGBTQ+ individuals with dementia is to recognise and celebrate the diversity within this community. LGBTQ+ individuals have their own unique experiences, histories, and identities that should be acknowledged, respected, and valued. It is crucial to create an inclusive environment that affirms their identities, even as they face the challenges of dementia.

2. Addressing Stigma and Discrimination: Unfortunately, LGBTQ+ individuals often face stigma and discrimination in society, which can be exacerbated when they develop dementia. This discrimination may come from social care and healthcare providers, care homes, or even family members. Supporting LGBTQ+ people with dementia involves combating this stigma and ensuring that they receive compassionate, non-judgmental care and support.

3. Tailored Care and Support: Providing tailored care and support to LGBTQ+ individuals with dementia is vital to meet their specific needs. Many individuals may have unique concerns, such as fears about coming out or navigating their identity within a care home setting. Social care and healthcare professionals and caregivers must be trained to understand and address these concerns sensitively, fostering an environment where LGBTQ+ individuals feel safe, respected, and understood.

4. Partnering with LGBTQ+ Organizations: Collaboration with LGBTQ+ organisations and community groups is crucial in supporting LGBTQ+ individuals with dementia. These organisations have the expertise and resources to provide guidance, training, and advocacy to social care and healthcare providers and caregivers. By partnering with such organisations, we can foster a more inclusive and supportive environment for LGBTQ+ individuals with dementia.  Organisation like the LGBTQ+ Dementia Advisory Group, the LGBT Foundation or the Brighton & Hove LGBT Switchboard.
   

5. Educating Social Care and Healthcare Providers: To ensure appropriate care, it is essential to educate social care and healthcare providers about the unique challenges faced by LGBTQ+ individuals with dementia. This education should focus on dispelling stereotypes, promoting inclusive language, and understanding the specific needs and concerns of this community. By equipping social care and healthcare providers with knowledge and awareness, we can enhance the quality of care provided to LGBTQ+ individuals with dementia.

6. Policy Changes and Legal Protections: Advocacy for policy changes and legal protections is another crucial aspect of supporting LGBTQ+ people with dementia. This includes advocating for equal rights, anti-discrimination laws, and regulations that explicitly protect the rights and dignity of LGBTQ+ individuals with dementia. By working towards a legal framework that safeguards their well-being, we can create a more inclusive society.

   

Supporting LGBTQ+ individuals with dementia in the United Kingdom is not just a matter of compassion; it is a necessary step towards achieving true equality and inclusivity. By acknowledging diversity, addressing stigma and discrimination, providing tailored care, partnering with LGBTQ+ organisations, educating social care and healthcare providers, and advocating for policy changes, we can create a society where LGBTQ+ individuals with dementia are fully supported and their rights are protected. Let us embrace the richness of diversity and work together to build a more inclusive future for all.

Embracing the Rainbow: Why We Need Pride Month! 🏳️‍🌈

Hey there, fabulous readers! Can you feel that spark in the air? It's the time of the year when rainbows colour our streets, parades take over cities, and love knows no bounds. 

That's right, it's Pride Month! Today, I want to take you on a fun and personal journey to explore why we need Pride Month and why it's so important for all of us to celebrate the beautiful spectrum of human diversity.

Picture this: it's a sunny day in June, and the streets are buzzing with energy. I'm wearing my brightest outfit, complete with a pair of rainbow-colored sunglasses that scream, "I'm ready to party!" Pride Month is a time when people of all sexual orientations, gender identities, and expressions come together to celebrate their authentic selves. It's a celebration of love, acceptance, and equality. But why do we need a whole month dedicated to it? Let me tell you why!

First and foremost, Pride Month is a chance for the LGBTQ+ community to reclaim their identities and be proud of who they are. For centuries, society has pushed queer individuals into the shadows, making them feel ashamed or invisible. Pride Month says, "Enough is enough!" It allows us to be unapologetic about our identities and reminds us that we deserve love and respect, just like everyone else.

But Pride Month isn't just about the LGBTQ+ community; it's a time for everyone to come together in solidarity and support. It's a chance for allies to show their love and commitment to equality. When we celebrate Pride, we acknowledge that love knows no boundaries and that every individual deserves to live their truth without fear or judgment. It's a powerful statement that tells the world, "We stand together, hand in hand, for a more inclusive society."

Now, let's talk about the fabulous parades! Pride parades are a riot of colour, music, and joy. They bring entire communities together, creating a safe and welcoming space where people can express themselves freely. Imagine a world where everyone feels comfortable in their own skin, where self-expression is celebrated, and where diversity is cherished. Pride parades give us a glimpse into that world, reminding us that it's not just a dream but an achievable reality.

But Pride Month isn't all about parades and parties. It's also a time for education and awareness. It's an opportunity to learn about the struggles faced by the LGBTQ+ community and how we can all contribute to making the world a more inclusive place. Pride Month encourages us to challenge our own biases and prejudices, to educate ourselves about the issues faced by marginalized groups, and to actively work towards a future where discrimination is eradicated.

In summary, Pride Month is a beautiful celebration of diversity, love, and equality. It empowers individuals to embrace their true selves, invites allies to stand up for what's right, and encourages society as a whole to create a more inclusive world. Pride Month reminds us that we are all part of a vibrant, colorful tapestry, where our differences are not only accepted but celebrated.

So, whether you identify as LGBTQ+ or simply want to support a world where love reigns supreme, let's join the festivities, spread love and acceptance, and make every month a Pride Month!

Remember, my fabulous readers, love is love, and together, we can create a world that shines brighter than any rainbow. 

Happy Pride Month! 🏳️‍🌈

The Emotional Toll of Being an Unpaid Carer for a Heart Failure Patient and the Importance of Prioritising Self-Care.

 

 

 

Taking care of a person with heart failure can be an exhausting and emotionally draining task, which often leaves unpaid carers feeling overwhelmed and unsupported. Unfortunately, unpaid carers in the UK face many challenges and obstacles on a daily basis, which can lead to feelings of loneliness, isolation, and compromised health.

 

According to the Carers Trust, there are approximately 7 million unpaid carers in the UK, with 6,000 people becoming carers each day. Furthermore, it is estimated that 1 in 7 unpaid carers in the UK is caring for a person with heart failure.

 

The emotional toll of being an unpaid carer for a person with heart failure cannot be underestimated. Unpaid carers may experience feelings of isolation, anxiety, stress, and depression, which can have a significant impact on their physical and mental health. In fact, a study by Carers UK found that 72% of unpaid carers in the UK suffer from poor mental health, while 61% reported feeling lonely or socially isolated.

 

Self-care is crucial for unpaid carers, and it is important to prioritise one's own well-being to avoid burnout and health issues. Taking breaks, seeking support, and making time for hobbies and interests are just a few ways to practice self-care.

 

Unpaid carers must be encouraged to prioritise their own health and well-being, as well as their relationship with the person they are caring for. This can improve the quality of care and ensure that both the unpaid carer and the person receiving care are receiving the support they need.

 

Thanks for taking the time to read.

 

Bondy

A - Z of the LGBTQ+ vocabulary pt. 2

 A-Z of the LGBTQ+ vocabulary pt. 2

Hi there everyone.  I was meant to do the second part of this post a while ago but as you know personal life does get in the way unfortunately.  I had to put my caring responsibilities and my health to the fore-front recently.  So enough about me, but here we go with part 2 of this post.

 

H

Heteronormative/Heteronormativity

These words are used to describe the notion that that heterosexuality is the preferred or normal mode of sexual orientation. It assumes the gender binary (i.e., that there are only two distinct, opposite genders) and that sexual and marital relations are most fitting between people of opposite sex.

 

Heterosexual or Straight

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The term Heterosexual/Straight describes a man or woman whose sexual orientation or romantic attraction towards the opposite gender (Male and Female coupling).

 

Homosexual 

The word homosexual can be seen as a more medical term to describe those individuals in society who are romantically or sexually attracted towards someone of the same gender. Gay is now more widely used.

Homophobia

Homophobia is a term that encompasses a range of negative attitudes, thoughts, fear and action towards Gay, Lesbian or Bisexuxal people, which can stem from religious beliefs.  Homophobic bullying can also be aimed at those individuals who are also percieved to identify as Lesbian, Gay or Bisexual due to being different to others around them.

 

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Intersex

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The term Intersex is used to refer those individuals in society who may have both biological charactheristics of both sexes. The term is also used to refer to those who biological charactheristics that do not fit the norm of societial ideas of what is a male or female individual.  

L

Lesbian 

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The term Lesbian is used to refer to a woman who has a romatic or sexual attraction towards other women.  Some individuals who identify as non-binary can also identify as Lesbian.

 

Lesbophobia

Lesbophobia is the term used to describe the negative attitudes, thoughts, fear and action towards those percvieved to identify as a Lesbian.  

 

LGBTQ+ 

LGBTQ+ is the umbrella acronym used for Lesbian, Gay, Bi-sexual, Transgender, Questionning, Queer and Ace.

LGBTQIA+

LGBTQIA+ is used as an inclusive term that encompasses people of all genders and sexualities  such as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning, queer, intersex, asexual, pansexual, and allies.  Whilst each letter in the LGBTQIA+ acronym identifies a specific group of people, the acronym embodies the entire spectrum of gender fluidity and sexual identities.

 

N

Non-Binary

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Non-Binary is an umbrella term that emcompasses people whose gender identity does not sit with the societal norm of male or female.  Those who identify as non-binary cna include those individuals who recognise with some aspects of binary identities, whilst many disregard the binary identities completly.  It is also known that non-binary identities can be varied.

 

O

Orientation

The word orientation is a used to describe a person's attraction towards other people.  This could be a romantic attraction or a sexual attraction and is based on a person's identity based on their attraction or lack of.

 

Outed

Outed is a word used to described when an individual's gender identity or sexual orientation is told to others without that person's consent.  

 

P

Pan/Pansexual

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Pan or Pansexual is the term used to refer to someone whose seuxal or romantic attraction to other individuals is not just based on a person's gender or sex.  

 

Passing

Passing is the word used to describe someone at a glance who is to be believed a cisgender man or woman.  For definition of Cisgender please see part 1 of this series. 

Platonic Partnerships

Those individual's who is on the aro spectrum or identify as Ace could have platonic relationships that emcompasses a high level of commitment that can include shared life decisions such as co-parenting children or living arrangements.  These partnerships could also include more than 2 people.Like allosexual and alloromantic people, ace and aro spectrum people may be monogamous or polyamorous. 

 

Pronoun

A pronoun is the term used to describe a person's gender identity through conversation.  These pronouns could include he, him, she or her.  There are some people who prefer their pronouns to be more gender netural and these include ze and zir, they and their.

 

Q

Queer

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The term Queer is used by those individuals who want to reject the specific labels in relation to sexual orientation or romantic attraction.  Queer can also be used as a slur by those who may have discrimatory notions towards those they percieve to be LGBTQ+.  The word Queer was reclaimed in the 1980's by the queer community, but their are still those who do identify as LGBTQ+ find the word to be triggering for them.

 

Questioning

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Questioning is the term used for those who are in the process of exploring their own gender identity or sexual/romantic orientation.

So this ends Part 2 of my LGBTQ+ vocab post.  Part 3 will becoming shortly.  If you think I have missed anything out so far, then please get in touch as even though I identify as a gay man, I recently realised that I also identify as a Demisexual person too.  So doing these posts have been an exploration for my own identity.

Hope you enjoy.

Bondy out!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A-Z of the LGBTQ+ vocabulary pt. 1

A-Z of the LGBTQ+ vocabulary pt.1

 

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Well, I did explain in the Why am I doing this blog post that I would be writing. As you may have worked out that I am a gay man. As a gay man who came out in 2000 or 1998 to some, I experienced a lot of bullying, prejudice, and discrimination. Most of the time I knew that this was out of fear, hatred and a lack of understanding. The LGBT community was making strides in protesting for equal rights and Section 28 was finally repealed in 2003. Fast forward to 2022, the LGBTQ+ community has grown, and various identities and language is used to identify members in the community. So, in my little old blogger sphere, I thought do an A-Z of the LGBTQ+ vocabuloary.

A

Abro (sexual and romantic)

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A word used to describe people who have a fluid sexual and/or romantic orientation which changes over time, or the course of their life. Over time, they may describe themselves differently.

 

Ace

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A term used to describe varying or occasional experiences of sexual attraction. As well as asexuals, demisexuals, and grey-sexuals, this group includes people who identify as asexual. The term asexual might also be used to describe a person's sexual attraction if they are experiencing romantic attraction or occasional sexual attraction.

 

Ace and aro/ace and aro spectrum

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A term used to represent a broad variety of individuals who occasionally or at varied levels experience romantic or sexual desire. These terms serve as a catch-all for people who identify in a variety of ways, such as asexual, ace, aromantic, aro, demi, grey, or abro. Along with ace and aro, people may also use terminology like gay, bi, lesbian, straight, and queer to describe the direction of romantic or sexual attraction if and when they experience it. 

 

 Allo (sexual and romantic)

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Despite not identifying as ace or aro, allo persons are sexually and romantically attracted to others.  As straight is to LGB+ spectrum identities, allo is to ace and aro spectrum identities.  Using language that equalises experience is crucial because otherwise, the opposite of ace and aro becomes "normal," which is stigmatising.

 

Aro

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An all-encompassing term used to refer to the absence, fluctuating, or sporadic feelings of romantic attraction.  This includes those who identify as aromantic, demiromantic, and grey-romantic.  People who identify as asexual yet occasionally feel sexual desire or occasional romantic interest may also use labels like homosexual, bi, lesbian, straight, and queer to express the nature of their attraction.

 

Aromantic

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A person who is not attracted romantically. While some aromantics are attracted to others, others are not. When describing the direction of their attraction, aromantic people who occasionally feel sexual desire or romantic attraction may also use labels like homosexual, bi, lesbian, straight, and queer in addition to the term "asexual."

 

Asexual

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A person who is not attracted to others sexually.  While some asexuals feel romantic desire, others do not.  When describing the direction of their romantic attraction, asexual people who feel it may also use terminology like homosexual, bisexual, lesbian, straight, and queer in addition to the word "asexual."

 

Ally

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A supporter of the LGBT community who is (usually) straight and/or cis.

 

 

B

Bi

 

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Bi is an overall term applied to depict a sexual orientation or/and romantic encounters to more than one gender.

Bi people could define themselves using more than one term including and not constrained to queer, pan, bisexual and other non-monoromantic and non-monosexual individualities.

 

Biphobia

Is the animosity or loathing of a person who identifies as bi.  These negative outlooks, views or beliefs are based on prejudice towards bi people.  This could also be in the form of Biphobic bullying and those who are believed to be bi or are bi are targeted.

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Butch

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Butch is a phrase used in LBT community to describe someone who expresses themselves in a masculine way.

There are other characteristics within the scope of butch, such as ‘soft butch’ and ‘stone butch’. You shouldn’t use these terms about someone unless you know they identify with them.

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C

Cisgender or Cis

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Someone whose gender identity is the same as the sex they were assigned at birth (Male or Female). Non-trans is also used by some people.

 

​Coming out

At the point when an individual first tells somebody/others about their sexual orientation and/or gender identity.

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D

Deadnaming

Calling somebody by their original name after they have changed their name. This term is often associated with trans individual who have changed their name as part of their transition.

 

Demi (sexual and romantic)

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An umbrella term used to portray individuals who may only feel sexually or romantically attracted with someone they have framed a close emotional bond with.  People may also use terms such as gay, bi, lesbian, straight and queer in conjunction with demi to explain the direction of their romantic or sexual attraction as they experience it.

 

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Femme

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Femme is a term used in LGBT community to describe someone who expresses themselves in a feminine manner.

There are other identities within the scope of femme, such as ‘low femme’, ‘high femme’, and ‘hard femme’. You shouldn’t use these terms about someone unless you know they identify with them.

 

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Gay

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Refers to a man who has a romantic and/or sexual orientation towards men. The term is widely used for lesbian and gay sexuality - some women identify themselves as gay rather than lesbian. Some non-binary people may well also identify with this term.

 

​Gender

Often denominated of masculinity and femininity, gender is very much culturally determined and assumed to be from the sex assigned at birth.

 

​Gender Dysphoria

Used to explain when a person experiences discomfort, confusion, or distress because there is a disparity between their sex assigned at birth and their gender identity.

​Gender Expression

How a person chooses to express their gender, within the context of societal norms around gender. A person who does not conform to these norms of gender may, however, identify as trans.

 

​Gender identity

A person’s intrinsic sense of their own gender, whether male, female, or something else (see non-binary), which may or may not be consistent to the sex designated at birth.

 

​Gender Reassignment

A way of describing a person’s transition. To go through gender reassignment usually means to go through some sort of medical intervention, but it can also mean changing pronouns, names, dressing differently, and living in their self-identified gender.

Gender reassignment is a characteristic that is protected by the Equality Act (2010).  It is a term of much debate and is one that Stonewall's Trans Advisory Group feels should be reviewed.​

 

Gender Recognition Certificate (GRC)

This legally allows trans people to be recognised by their affirmed gender and the person to be issued with a new birth certificate. Not all trans people will apply for a GRC and you currently must be over 18 to apply.

You do not need a GRC to change your gender markers at work or to legally change your gender on other documents such as your passport.

 

​Gillick Competence

A term used in medical law to decide whether a child (under 16 years of age) can consent to their own medical treatment, without the need for parental permission or knowledge.

 

Grey (sexual and romantic)

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A.K.A. grey-A, this is an umbrella term which describes people who feel attraction occasionally, rarely, or only under certain conditions. Terms such as gay, bi, lesbian, straight and queer in conjunction with grey to explain a person’s sexual or romantic attraction.

The idea of this glossary came from Stonewall  😀